Almost as if overnight, your sweet, angelic Teen seems to have become increasingly defiant. She has become reactive and highly sensitive to what appear to be trivial matters. In fact, it may seem like you are walking around on eggshells, waiting on that next emotional outburst. Some parents chalk this behavior up to teenage hormones. Other parents believe it may go a bit deeper. Either way, it’s a pretty fair guess to assume that ALL parents wish for more harmony in the home.
And so if it’s not just your average teenage hormonal rampage, then what is it?
Is it possible to level out these extreme behavioral patterns, or are you doomed until your Teen reaches adulthood?
First of all, you must accept that your Teenage child is going through some major changes on many different levels! These changes are not only physical; they are also both mental and spiritual in nature.
Essentially, your Teen is learning to navigate a greater awareness of the World around him. He is trying to grasp the meaning of life and to integrate his own knowledge that now includes information from outside the home.
This is when she begins to question some long held beliefs that she realizes , whether consciously or not, have been programmed by YOU!
Ouch!
Just stating facts!
Moving on, trust that it’s all good.
This is a normal developmental phase for your Teen. It is where he begins to embark on a life destiny independent of you other than your ongoing love and support.
Ok, ok, but what if the struggle seems too deep ?
What if she is overly aggressive or passive, increasingly enraged or falling deeper into despair and even depression? What if he seems to care less about life, begins to skip school, spend excessive amounts of time alone, on a screen, or running with the “wrong” crowd?
What if…
…typical teenage angst turns into life-threatening behaviors that keep you up at night?
… fill your days with incessant worry?
…leave you wondering who this stranger is in your house?
If this is the case, then it is very likely that not only is your Teenage child dealing with the typical trials and tribulations of the teenage years. There may also be trapped emotions from earlier events or circumstances that were particularly challenging. To avoid the pain of such situations, your Teen may have done what many at any age do. He may have pushed these difficult emotions and the feelings attached to them, deep into his subconscious.
The problem is that these emotions fester over time, creating a snowball effect of heavy, dense energy in the body. What this means, is that every single, ever so slightly challenging event blows up like a volcanic eruption, spewing tirades that include stomping around, banging doors, and pounding fists on walls.
Why? Because the energy needs to be released. It can’t be stuffed down forever! Eventually, it has to come up, it has to move, it has to be released! Otherwise, your Teen will literally suffocate under the weight of her own oppressive emotions.
These emotions might include grief, sadness, anger, loneliness, or a feeling of being abandoned or unloved.
And so, HOW do you get your Teen to release these trapped emotions that he may not even be aware of?
And what can you do to help make this happen?
First of all, DON’T put it off any longer! It’s like a warning signal on your dashboard that says your air pressure is low. You address it right away. If not, you end up on the side of the road with your shredded tire across all lanes for all to see. Not to mention that it can endanger other drivers on the road!
Avoid that mess at all costs!
And so here are 3 things you can do, RIGHT NOW, to help your Teen to literally cough up, perhaps spit up those nasty emotions!
1. COMMUNICATE: However it can be done at this point, tell your Teen what your concerns are. Remind her how much you love her and that you want the best for her. Mention that you seem to notice a bit of a struggle. Identify what you believe the root cause may be, and be willing to own any part you may have had in her struggle. This is a biggie, because it lets her know that she’s not alone in addressing the issue. She will wholeheartedly appreciate your vulnerability!
2. COME UP WITH AN ACTION PLAN: Make some suggestions to your Teen and see where he’s willing to do some work. Be prepared ahead of time with multiple avenues for healing and transformation. Options may include traditional talk therapy, group therapy and art therapy. Other choices may involve homeopathy, the use of flower essences, energy work or sound healing and a host of other very potent practices. Your teen could also opt to sign up for yoga classes or take up group prayer or meditation.
3. IMPLEMENT THE PLAN AND HAVE YOUR TEEN TRACK HIS/HER PROGRESS: A plan is no good unless it is put into action. It is critical that you support your Teen in ensuring that they commit to the plan. In fact, coming up with an easy way for your Teen to track his progress will empower him. The visual will motivate him to keep going, and will help him feel a sense of accomplishment!
BONUS: DO IT NOW!!!!!!
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